Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Finding Purpose in Your Pain

If you take a good look at the individuals who are making a difference in the lives of others, it can usually be traced to them having experienced something unfortunate in their own lives which prompted their efforts.

They want to make a positive difference with what they have endured and in some cases they want to make things better in our fallen world in the memory of someone that they lost.

Most of us have faced some type of hardship in our lives. It could be the pain of a broken relationship. It could be the pain of someone hurting our feelings or rejecting us. It could be any disappointment, an illness, or a great loss. It could be emotional or physical pain.

Have you ever thought about finding purpose in your pain and how that would look for you? 


Finding purpose in your pain will look different to different people. Pain and brokenness will be different things to different people as well.

Your purpose could be a realization that you discovered about yourself,  to..........helping someone else with what you have been through. 

Allow yourself to be a victim, to grieve, and to be hurt and upset over what you have endured. Give yourself time to get through the pain. Seek help from others if you feel that you need it.

We need each other. Let people help lift you back up. 

Then, ask yourself if you are going to stay a victim or learn from the pain and turn it into some purpose. Look to learn from the experience and to grow from it.  

Further, try not to judge others when they suffer. Try not to compare or minimize what they see as a difficultly.  

I want to encourage you to be kind and compassionate to others who are going through a difficult time and to also try to turn your pain into purpose in some way.

Further, it is important to remember to allow others and / or you time after a trauma or disappointment before normalcy can be demonstrated again. It may be a new normalcy.

I used to stress out and get anxiety when I experienced a difficult situation. Now, I may get sad or upset because I am human. 


However, then I pray for the Lord to guide me, grow me, and to use me with the experience. 

I hope that you can pray something like that too. I want to encourage you to make an attempt to find purpose in your pain and to be understanding and loving to others in their pain.   

If you have a relationship with the Lord, your pain could also bring you closer to Him as you seek His comfort with your suffering. If you do not know the Lord, I want to encourage you to talk to someone who can help you to get to know Him. 

If you already have accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior but you do not feel close to Him because you are so hurt, I want to encourage you to go to Him. Give Him your pain. He loves you and He wants to take your burdens and help you to find strength, healing, and purpose from your pain.

He wants to take you from being a victim to living victoriously!      

And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. 1 Peter 5:10

Pain generates change. What will your change be? 

What will your purpose be from your pain?

Please share your purpose from pain with a comment to inspire others.


By Diane Gammon M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counselor




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