Have you ever justified a way that you reacted to
something or someone based on your feelings and then wished that you had responded
differently?
Our feelings are how we feel, simply put. We feel sad. We feel
happy. Our thoughts are what we think about and thinking is a mental process. We
can feel one way but chose to use our mind set to respond a different way.
Feelings are important to be recognized. It is okay to feel upset. It is not
okay to react inappropriately from being upset for example, by destroying
property or by tearing down people emotionally.
I want to encourage you to allow yourself to feel the
way that you do over a given situation. Then, try to ask yourself why you think
that you feel this way. Try and understand to make sense of it. Allow yourself
to react with how you are feeling - to yourself. Then, try to respond to the
situation or person in a way that reflects how you want to demonstrate your
character.
Next, I want to encourage you to allow others in your
life to feel as they do as well. A kind response to someone who is hurting is
to say to them that you understand how that must be hurtful and difficult for
them. We all want to be affirmed, especially with how we are feeling. However,
we are in control and have choices in how we respond to situations and people.
We can feel angry but we can also chose to think and take our time to cool down
and then to respond to others with respect.
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