Although we can try, it is can very difficult to leave the past in the past. Our mind goes back and revisits the past and then we relive our mistakes, traumas, anger, and regrets over and over again.
While it is important to bring these up to the surface to work through them, once we do that, we have to let them go and leave them in the past.
The best way
to do this is to train your mind to let the past stay in the past.
While you may not have
control over thinking of something, you do have the choice not to dwell on it
and let it take over your emotions.
Focus on your life now
and look to your future!
Sometimes it may be troublesome to
move on from your past because there is still something that you need to do to
make amends before you can move on. Perhaps it is forgiving someone. It may be
that you have not been able to let go of someone.
Whatever it is, ask yourself what
might be holding you back. Acknowledge it. Confront want you truly believe that
you need to do to move past it and do it.
Allow yourself to reflect at your
life and circumstances of what you are going through. Try looking at it as a
third party. What would you tell a close friend or family member to do if they
asked you?
It is helpful to be aware and then to
understand why you are having a difficult time letting go and moving on.
Accept what was and is and tell
yourself that - YOUR PAST DOES NOT DEFINE YOU!
Leave what you need to let go of in the past.
When it creeps back up, tell yourself,
“I am past this. I have let this go! I am healed! I DO NOT AND WILL NOT dwell on it nor will I let it consume my
emotions any longer.”
Then, concentrate on the here and now
and what lies before you.
Journal your values and aspirations
and drive forward without looking in your review mirror any more except to say, "I am moving forward and I do not need to dwell in my past any longer."
We all have a past. They are all
different. Mine was painful due to multiple traumas. Then, I made some decisions in my life that I wish I had not made due to my pain. However, my pain, traumas, and my mistakes do not define me!
Right now, visualize carrying around heavy stones with you as you do everything in your life (representing things that you need to let go of). That would be difficult to carry those and keep moving forward, right? Now visualize placing them in a row and using them as stepping stones to move forward in your life.
LEARN from your past! Turn your mess into a message!
Then when your past calls again- tell yourself, "I don't need to answer that call as it has nothing new to say! "
Seek help and talk to someone if need be. There is a whole new life out there waiting for you!
Then when your past calls again- tell yourself, "I don't need to answer that call as it has nothing new to say! "
Seek help and talk to someone if need be. There is a whole new life out there waiting for you!
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