Thursday, April 16, 2015

Divorce- Allow Yourself Time To Adjust

Divorce is always sad and tragic for everyone involved. Unfortunately, sometimes it cannot be helped. 

I am divorced. 


It can be very devastating for someone who has gone through a divorce. However-- there IS life and healing after divorce. The important thing is to allow yourself time to heal after you have either experienced divorce or you were exposed to one.

People who endure a hardship such as a divorce are going to be more vulnerable afterward. 

Because of this, it is a good idea not to make any major life changing decisions for at least one year. 

This is so that you do not make a decision based on emotions.  

It is also a good idea not to date right after a divorce because of being more vulnerable which can result in also being emotionally ‘needy’ and yearning to be 'rescued' by someone. Whether you are the one who asked for the divorce or not, it is really a good idea to give yourself time to grieve the loss of the marital relationship and to allow yourself time to heal.

I also suggest that it is a great time to explore your personal passions in life. Instead of looking for someone else to try and fill a void that you have in your life, why not get to know yourself better. 

Ask yourself what you enjoyed doing before the marriage that maybe you didn’t have time for during the marriage. Re-visit those passions and then explore new passions. Make a list of things that you would like to do, places you would like to go, and activities that you would like to try.   

You have to make yourself happy and be content with WHO YOU ARE before you can be ready and emotionally healthy to be in a new relationship.  

Allow yourself time to adjust after a divorce!

If you have recently divorced, it is best to reach out for support to 'Emotionally SAFE' and 'Emotionally Stable' people instead of individuals who may be emotionally vulnerable like you. 

After you give yourself time - write the next chapter in your life book by enjoying the gifts of life! 


At each end - IS A NEW BEGINNING!



For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

By Diane Gammon M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counselor
                                                      Blog Website LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

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