Breaking Up Is Hard To Do- Tips That Can Help

Your Relationship May Be Over----------- 
But Your Life Is Not Over

• Focus on yourself, if you've found yourself focused a great deal on your ex-partner or husband/wife. 
• If you've focused too much on yourself, turned inwards and stopped seeing friends and family then it's time to focus outwards and engage with their lives.

• Do all you can to work on building up your personal strength and self-esteem, most importantly by being kind and compassionate with yourself. Demonstrate self-care and self-respect.

• Try to Stop blaming - your ex as well as yourself. 
• It's the one thing that is going to stop you being able to let go and move on. It is much harder if you haven't been given the opportunity to 'spit it all out' and talk it over. The never being given an opportunity to have a conversation about it may be harder to forgive than the reasons as to why your relationship or marriage ended and how it ended.

• Change your surroundings, move furniture, clear up, buy new sheets and pillows for your bed. This is your space (if indeed it is and you haven't had to move in with someone as a temporary solution)! It will help you gain a sense of control, and having a sense of control is one of our essential emotional needs.

• Delete what and who needs to be deleted from your social media sites as much as you can, so as not to be confronted with your ex's to-ings and fro-ings at any time of the day.
• Remind your friends and family to keep your ex out of the conversation if possible. Ask them to be really sensitive when that can't be avoided (possibly because of your insistence to tell!).

• Get professional help if you need to. There is no need to suffer in silence and be alone.

Try to remember that by taking control and doing something to deal with the pain of an ending- that you're always going to feel better.

Reference- http://www.professional-counselling.com/getting-over-a-breakup-and-forget.html

Diane Davidson Gammon MS is clinically supervised by Michael Loftis LCSW as she pursues  LPC-MHSP licensure.
 
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