Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Letting Go of Past Relationships- Ways to Move On

 Let go of any regrets.

Talk about your regrets and feelings to a trusted friend or a counselor and write down your thoughts in a journal.

Allow yourself to have the feelings and emotions that you are experiencing.... Just handle them in a positive and healthy manner.

Learn from any past mistakes and then- let it go.

Forgive yourself from any regrets or failures.

Choose to live in inner peace.

Choose to let go what you do not have any control over.
  
List what you do have control over and think about what you can do that is productive and positive.

Give your pain and hurts to the Lord.

Engage yourself in new activities.

Place yourself in opportunities in which you can make new friends.   

Learn from the past and look to the future.

By Diane Gammon M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counselor

                                           Blog Website LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Monday, June 29, 2015

Forgiving Yourself and Breaking Free From Guilt, Shame, and Failures


It is difficult to forgive others. It can be even more difficult to forgive yourself for something. 

It is necessary however to be able to free yourself from any guilt and shame that you are experiencing. 


Guilt and shame will just keep eating at you and continue to feed negativity into your mind and spirit. This will affect your mental and physical health. If you feel bad about something that you did – or didn’t do and it is bothering you, it may be time to forgive yourself. 


Past failures and poor decisions are just that….. they are in the past. 



The way that you see yourself is not an accurate picture of what God has done for you and how He sees you. God loves you deeply and completely. When you don’t forgive yourself and let go and take the gift of God’s redemption, you are denying yourself of the gift God gave you. 

You are worthy!!    You are worthy!! 

God has already forgiven you and so he doesn’t want you to feel bad. God wants you to live and peace and to feel his everlasting Love. 

Set yourself free. Don’t choose to focus on feeling bad to try and punish yourself. That is not productive. Make the decision to forgive yourself for anything that you need to forgive yourself for. 

The best thing that you can do is let it go and move forward with what you have learned from the situation.  

  
Fill in the blank……. Today, I forgive myself for………………………………………………………………

Then, let it go. Fill your spirit with positive thoughts of how you are going to move forward with what you have learned and in loving with perfect peace, the peace that God has placed for you when he died on the cross.

it is a blessing to give and to receive a gift. 

You can honor God by accepting His gift with great joy and begin to see yourself as a new creation in Christ.


Your past failures are forgiven. Forgive yourself. You did the best that you could with where you were, with what you had, and with what you knew- or were capable of----------- let it go. 


Demonstrate self-care and self-love and learn from your past and apply what you learned for a brighter tomorrow!



Isaiah 43:25, "I, even I, am he that blotteth 

out thy transgressions for mine own sake, 

and will not remember thy sins."

Isaiah 41:10 Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. 


                    By Diane Gammon M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counselor

                     Blog Website LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Sunday, June 28, 2015

Fetal Development- Factors That Can Affect This Growth Process

There are many factors that need to be considered on a developing fetus. There are environmental and genetic factors. 

There are teratogens which are birth defects that can be caused from different agents such as a drug. Often it is because of the dose amount that can cause birth defects. 

There is also genetic susceptibility which is a type of abnormalities caused by a teratogen that is connected to a genotype of a woman who is pregnant. 

Further, the time of the exposure of teratogens will have different effects on the developing fetus than other times. 

Specifically, they are vulnerable to environmental changes when the fetus is in the stage of developing organs.

Prescription and non- prescription drugs can function as a teratogen and can contribute to abnormal fetal development. 

Drinking a lot of alcohol can also contribute as well. Psychoactive drugs can also interfere with fetal development.

The following can also function as teratogens and can create abnormalities in fetal development: 

nicotine, cocaine, marijuana, heroin, and methamphetamine.

There are some environmental hazards that can lead to abnormal fetal development as well. Some of them are radiation, pesticides, petrochemicals, pollution, and toxic waste. Some infectious diseases can also cause fetal abnormalities. 

Genetics and age of women in pregnancy are also factors in contributing to birth defects. If a female gets pregnant too young such as a teen or older than in her thirties, she is considered a risk for abnormality in her pregnancy. Demonstrating proper nutrition and getting proper pre-natal care are also important for a developing fetus to grow healthy (Santrock, 2009).

A test on fetal development regarding anxiety and depression showed that research indicated a detrimental effect of maternal psychological distress during pregnancy in fetal development.

This was especially pertinent when the risk factors of a mothers’ psychopathological symptoms and substance consumption are put together (Conde, et al., 2010).

References
Conde, A.  Figueiredo, B., Tendais, I., Teixeira, Costa, R., Pacheco, A., Rodriguz, M. C., Nogueira, R. (2010) Mother’s anxiety and depression and associated risk factors during early pregnancy: effects on fetal growth and activity at 20–22 weeks of Gestation, Journal of Psychosomatic Obstetrics & Gynecology, Vol 31(2), Jun, pp. 70-82.

Santrock, J. W.(2009). A Topical Approach to Life-Span Development (Third ed.). (M. Sugarman, Ed.) New York: McGraw-Hill.
By Diane Gammon M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counselor

                                           Blog Website LivingWithHopeCounseling.com


Saturday, June 27, 2015

Alzheimer’s Disease- Gaining An Understanding

According to (DSM-IV-TR) (APA, 2000) Alzheimer’s is referred to on Axis I as “Dementia for Alzheimer’s type”. Alzheimer’s is a neurodegenerative disorder that is very progressive and is fatal. 

Studies demonstrate that people with this disease could pass away approximately seven years after the on-set of memory loss and as early as three years. 


Alzheimer’s is the most common cause for the cognitive disorder dementia. Alzheimer’s can only be fully diagnosed after one’s death with an autopsy to examine the brain abnormalities. 


To diagnose Alzheimer’s while an individual is living, all other possible reasons that a person has gotten dementia have first need to be ruled out. This is done by obtaining a family history, obtaining laboratory testing, and by being examined by a physician.


The on-set of Alzheimer’s usually does not occur until the age of about 45 or after. It is correlated with a multitude of cognitive dysfunctions as mental functioning declines. Usually if an individual has Alzheimer’s, their cognitive deterioration is a very gradual process which usually begins with short term memory loss. 

Other symptoms could be: having poor judgment, being disoriented, starting to lack in taking care of personal hygiene, and not feeling connected to reality. 


Individuals with Alzheimer’s are able to alleviate some of their symptoms with proper guidance. However, once the disease forces loss of certain functions, it is not possible to restore these functions. 

Counselors can help a client with their agitation and aggression that they may often feel. 


Counselors can also help caretakers of these particular patients deal with the distress that they endure (Butcher, Mineka, & Hooley, 2012). 

References
American Psychiatric Association (APA). (2000) Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders, Fourth Edition, Text Revision (DSM-IV-TR) 4th ed., Text revision. Arlington,VA: Author.

Butcher, J. N., Mineka, S., & Hooley, J. M. (2012). Abnormal psychology, 14th ed. Boston, MA: Pearson.

By Diane Gammon M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counselor

                                           Blog Website LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Friday, June 26, 2015

Impact of Divorce- Another Theoretical Perspective Is The Family Process


Another theoretical perspective is the differences in families who have divorced and those who have stayed married regarding process variables. 

Some of these variables are how families solve problems, deal with control issues, and how families express themselves. 

With the family process perspective, proximal variables like how a child is raised is what shapes how they adjust to the divorce and how they can flourish instead of live as a negative statistic. 

There is research that shows that there can be both positive and negative results of children of divorce (Hetherington, Bridges, and Insabella, 1998).

Thus, children can be resilent especially if they see their parents be strong and resilent. If a family implements effective coping skills and a positive outlook, it will influence their children to be able to do the same. 


Reference
Hetherington, E. M., Bridges, M., & Insabella, G. M. (1998). What matters? What does not? Five perspectives on the association between marital transitions and children's adjustment.  Psychologist, 53(2), 167–184. Retrieved from the PsycARTICLES database.


By Diane Gammon M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counselor


                                           Blog Website LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Thursday, June 25, 2015

The Impact of Divorce- One Theoretical Perspective Is An Individual Risk and Vulnerability Perspective


It is reported that one half of all marriages end in divorce in our nation. Further, one million children will be exposed to their parents’ getting a divorce each year. 

Over half of all children will live in a single parent home during the course of their childhood, which is usually a single mother. 

Most adults who get divorced do attempt marriage again with a new partner, which has even more of a chance to end up in divorce (Hetherington, Bridges, and Insabella, 1998).

Individual Risk and Vulnerability Perspective


One theoretical perspective is an individual risk and vulnerability perspective. 

When a parent and even a child demonstrate certain attributes, they then can be prone to being vulnerable to adversity because of these attributes. 

Many adults have behavior aspects that set them up to have marriage problems. 

Further, when an adult has physiological issues, they chose a mate who also has these same difficulties. This creates difficulties in the relationship with both mates having issues and then trying to be functional in the relationship. 

This is referred to as the marital selectivity hypothesis. In most cases then, these couples produce children who learn to develop these same kinds of traits (Hetherington, Bridges, and Insabella, 1998).

I have seen this personally many times with volunteering at my church with newly divorced individuals. They become and feel desperate to have a new mate immediately and they seek out a mate who is as dysfunctional as they are. 

Together, they spiral down and are faced with adversity because of the poor choices that they make. They suffer and their children suffer as well from their poor choices and the consequences of them.

Reference
Hetherington, E. M., Bridges, M., & Insabella, G. M. (1998). What matters? What does not? Five perspectives on the association between marital transitions and children's adjustment.  Psychologist, 53(2), 167–184. Retrieved from the PsycARTICLES database.


By Diane Gammon M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counselor

                                           Blog Website LivingWithHopeCounseling.com

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Suicide in Adolescents- Facts And What Can Help


Suicide is the third leading cause of death in adolescents and in young adults in the United States.


Suicidal behaviors are also the most common reason for adolescent psychiatric hospitalizations in most countries.



Reducing suicide and suicide attempts is thus the key public health goal.




Many studies have suggested a significant correlation with family factors,
including family psychopathology, abuse, loss of a parent (death, divorce), intrafamilial relationships, if they have support, and suicidality.

Thus, family factors and especially the 

perceivequality of family relationships 

plays a large part in a youth's emotional 


well-being.




Helpful treatment can be Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) with being specific in addressing suicide. Individual and Family therapy is beneficial. CBT is explained in a different post in June on my blog. (June 12th blog.)

Reference


Consoli, A., Peyre, H., Speranza, M., Hassler, C., Falissard, B., Touchette, E., Cohen, D., Moro, M., Revah-Levy, A. (2013). Suicidal behaviors in depressed adolescents: Role of perceived relationships in the family. Child and Adolescent Psychiatry and Mental Health, 7, 16, 2013. ArtID 8.


I am leading support groups/ classes in July and August to help individuals gain a better understanding of depression/ anxiety/ panic symptoms and what can be helpful.

Groups/ Classes are FREE, however; you need to register.   

What:
Support Groups/ Classes on Coping With Anxiety And Depression. A class will be dedicated to what to look out for with depression and suicide symptoms in children and teens. 
Share in group what you are experiencing or you can just listen.

Get information on how to better understand anxiety and depression as well as learn coping skills and how to be empowered to get through difficult times.  

Where:
Michael Loftis Counseling      
       2670 Memorial Blvd
               Suite E
  Murfreesboro, TN 37129

When: Every Friday evening in July and August, 2015 (EXCEPT JULY 3rd)

Starting-  on Friday July 10th, 2015

Time: 7:00pm – 8:15pm each week

Contact Diane Gammon by calling or texting (615) 556-8406 or emailing her at Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.
com with any questions and to register. 

Please leave a voicemail message when calling. (You may attend any amount of group classes that you want.)
  

You can attain hope and healing!

Diane received her Master of Science Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Walden University with a specialization in Trauma and Crisis Counseling.

Diane is under the clinical supervision of Michael Loftis L.C.S.W. as she pursues professional licensure as a LPC-MHSP. 


Diane is also currently pursuing her PhD in Psychology.  

By Diane Gammon M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counselor

                                           Blog Website LivingWithHopeCounseling.com








Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Losing Weight- Steps To Take That Are Helpful

The need to lose weight and not being successful at it is a difficulty for many people. 

Recent research has demonstrated that if you even lose ten pounds that it will increase your health benefits. It is unhealthy to be overweight. 


Here are some pointers that can help:


*You need to get in the right mind frame and decide that you want to make healthy changes. 


*You need to put a plan in place in which it will make it easier for you to follow through with your healthy choices. 


I always have healthy snacks with me for example so that I will not grab unhealthy food when I am out and I get hungry all of a sudden. I carry raw almonds and an apple or a banana with me at all times.


*Drink water in-between your snacks and meals. It will help to fill you up. Your body needs water. Most of us do not drink enough water. It is also healthier to drink at times when you are not eating.


I carry a water bottle with me at all times.


*Eat small amounts of food throughout the day instead of large meals. 


This is healthier for you and it helps to keep you full.


*If you eat meals, cut the portions down to half. If you do this for weeks, you will lose weight. 


Portion control!


*Don't tell yourself that you cannot have something to eat for a treat. Just have a very small amount.


Portion control!


*Make healthy choices of what you eat. Keep the sugar, dairy and meat to a minimum and eat plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables. 


*Start walking and build your way up to a little further each day. It will help you lose weight, increase your energy level, and help your mental and physical health in many ways!  



By Diane Gammon M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counselor

                                           Blog Website LivingWithHopeCounseling.com
  

Monday, June 22, 2015

Serious Depression Symptoms- What to Look For And When To Seek Help


  • Some Common Depression Symptoms: 
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness, or hopelessness

  • Loss of interest or pleasure in usual activities, including sex
  •  
  • Difficulty concentrating and complaints of poor memory
  •  
  • Insomnia or oversleeping
  •  
  • Appetite changes, which may include weight gain or loss
  •  
  • Fatigue, lack of energy
  •  
  • Thoughts of suicide or death
  •  
  • Slow speech; slow movements


*  In children and teens- they may include: 

  Trouble with sleep

 Stomachache, dizziness

-  Social withdrawal, weight loss

-Drug abuse or alcohol abuse, a change in school   performance            

 Difficulty concentrating  

 Isolation from family and friends
         

   There is a difference between just feeling sad or "depressed" and having a “clinical” depressive mental illness. If you have low spirits for a while, there may not be cause for alarm. However, if you feel like you cannot lift yourself out of your low spirits, and/or begin to notice other physical symptoms such as changes in sleep, appetite, or energy, you should seek professional help.

Reference WEb MD- http://www.webmd.com/depression/understanding-depression-symptoms

I am leading support groups/ classes in July and August to help individuals with depression and anxiety/ panic disorder.

Groups/ Classes are FREE, however; you need to register.   

What:
Support Groups/ Classes on Coping With Anxiety And Depression
Share in group what you are experiencing or you can just listen.

Get information on how to better understand anxiety/ panic and depression as well as learn coping skills and how to be empowered to get through difficult times.  

Where:
Michael Loftis Counseling      
       2670 Memorial Blvd
               Suite E
  Murfreesboro, TN 37129

When: Every Friday evening in July and August, 2015 (EXCEPT JULY 3rd)

Starting-  on Friday July 10th, 2015

Time: 7:00pm – 8:15pm each week

Contact Diane Gammon by calling or texting (615) 556-8406 or email Diane at Diane@LivingWithHopeCounseling.com with any questions and to register. Please leave a voicemail message when calling. (You may attend any amount of group classes that you want.)
  

You can attain hope and healing!

Diane received her Master of Science Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Walden University with a specialization in Trauma and Crisis Counseling.

Diane is under the clinical supervision of Michael Loftis L.C.S.W. as she pursues professional licensure as a LPC-MHSP. 


Diane is also currently pursuing her PhD in Psychology.  

By Diane Gammon M.S. Clinical Mental Health Counselor

                                           Blog Website LivingWithHopeCounseling.com