But Why Me? Ways to Get Past The Pain

Many of my clients who are going through a difficult time ask the question, "Why me?"

Most of them usually compare their life to others. The assume that others are happier, healthier, have more money, have nicer things, more friends, less problems and so on.

Many of the people that we compare ourselves to and often envy are not living this picture perfect life that we often dream up that they do.

Still yet, we wonder, why me? Why Lord do I have to endure this extreme physical and/ or emotional pain?

I give the same answer to everyone to asks. We live in a fallen world with illness, sadness, abuse, free will and hardships. And- everything who we think has a perfect life- does not.

The truth is that at one time or another- all of us will experience some type of pain or struggle. 

A lot of the times, people's struggles are hidden. But we all have them.

The best way to work on getting past the pain is to:

Demonstrate positive self talk every day. Tell yourself that you are okay over and over.

Take deep breaths.

Think of a peaceful and safe visual in your mind with you in the vision.

Count your blessings.

Let go of what you do not have control of.

Write out tiny steps of short term goals of what is in your control to make positive changes.

Seek support.

Pray to God. He loves you with an everlasting love.

Do what you can with where you are with what you have. 

Demonstrate self - care. Take a walk. Drink water. Eat healthy. Get plenty of rest. Do something that you enjoy.

Seek help. Talk to someone who cares/ who can help you.

Remember that emotional pain is temporary. 

Talk to yourself rationally that you have not been singled out but rather, that everyone goes through difficult times.

Tell yourself that you can and will get past your difficulties. 

Take one day at a time.

Focus on positivity and a better day coming. What you feed your mind will influence your emotions and your actions.

Forgive others and yourself and try not to compare your life to another person's life.

Try to enjoy the journey instead of focusing on the finish line. 

Learn and grow.

Be a blessing to someone else. 

Pray!

Call someone!

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 By Diane Davidson 
                               Gammon M.S.
         Clinical Mental Health Counselor
Diane Davidson Gammon MS is clinically supervised by Michael Loftis LCSW as she pursues  LPC-MHSP licensure.

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